Looking back at the way society and groups of people use to communicate, it can be concluded that relationships were more intimate. When people met to socialize it was an interpersonal atmosphere, where people were engaged in the conversation. If someone were to indulge in a book about the 16th century, it would be clear how socializing was held with high importance. Royalty and aristocrats were expected to host some form of socializing event. It was frowned upon for a noble not to host a ball or an evening of chatter, reading books together or playing cards; it was something they were anticipated to do whether they fancied it or not.
Later around the 1900’s in developed cities like New York, it became the trend to meet at coffee shops (or the nearest diner) and discuss the morning paper, before people headed to work. By this period, it was no longer custom to host social events at your home, it was more popular being involved with a smaller group to socialize.
Flash forward to the current generation and Social media has completely taken over. People meet new friends, and potential lovers on social media sites. The majority of society receives their news from social media. There is no doubt about it, we are in the age were technology is controlling us and our relationships.
This change in communication has changed the way humans behave. Behind a computer people can be who they want to be; when someone is not face to face and looking at the reaction that another makes. One cannot be sure if that person is actually laughing out loud at all the jokes they claim to be laughing at. Nearly all are unaware if that individual on the other side of the screen is at all interested, or focused on the conversation being held. Relationships are no longer personal and private. When two people break up it has become common to announce it on social media and inform their hundreds of “friends” in on their personal business; knowing very well only three of those friends are people they actually have a true relationship with.
The main issue with social media is that people can pretend to be something they are not, on social media individuals can become a different character. It has changed the way people think and act because they can be someone they are not in real life. Therefore, it is safe to say that social media is slowly becoming the root of all evil – destroying relationships and people.
Christakis, N. A., & Fowler, J. H. (2009). Connected: The surprising power of our social networks and how they shape our lives. New York: Little, Brown and.